5 Ways to Love Your Single Self this Singles' Day

Singles' Day is approaching. The 11th day of the 11th month become a celebration of singleness in China in the 1990s, but in recent years it's spread to the rest of the world.

Being in love or having a strong friendship can add a lot of joy to your life, but ultimately, happiness comes from within. Being happy as a single person means being content with who you are and what you have. It means being happy with your own company and not needing anyone else to complete you. It means being able to find joy in the simple things in life and not needing someone else to make you happy.

Of course, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to be in a relationship. But if you’re not happy with yourself first, then you’ll never be truly happy with someone else.

That's why Singles' Day is the perfect time to lean into celebrating the relationship you have with yourself (the most important one you’ll ever have).

As Singles' Day approaches, lots of people are looking forward to spending the day alone – but may not be sure how to go about it. Whether you’re happily single or in between relationships, these five tips will help you celebrate YOU.

Set your intention

Take a little time to set intentions for the day. How would you like to feel? Are there any elements of partnered celebration you’d like to recreate a solo version of? Narrow down the vibe you want to create to three words and plan your day with focus. Set up your space to reflect your intentions. The day is no less special alone, make the effort to set the mood. You’re worth it.

Mindset matters

The way we perceive things majorly influences how we experience them. There are many different kinds of love, all valid and valuable. But often all we see celebrated is romantic love. Being single by choice or otherwise doesn’t not preclude you from having love in your life. Dedicate the day to celebrating all the manifestations of love you have in your life and showering yourself with self-love.

Pamper yourself

Self-care is key. Whether that means giving yourself a massage after a relaxing shower, treating yourself to decadent food, or taking yourself on a date, make sure to give yourself the attention you deserve.

Remember this is a celebration, your everyday moisturizer might not be a fit for the occasion. Give yourself the gift of a new lotion or massage oil. The day calls for a luxurious hydrating cream with a scent profile that makes you feel delicious.

Slow down

Valentine’s Day can be hectic, full of people and hustle and bustle. Instead of fighting the crowds, take some time for yourself and enjoy the peace and quiet. After you’ve started the wind down with a relaxing soak, spend some time reading that romance novel that has been collecting dust on your bedstand or explore audio erotica as you recline in bed.

Go the extra mile in the bedroom

Make an event of solo sex. Put on your sexy playlist. Treat yourself to a tantalizing enhancement cream to give your erogenous zones a seductive tingle and new exciting toy or two, guaranteed to entertain you for as long as you wish (another benefit of celebrating solo, partnered sex never comes with that guarantee). After some quality time with Main Attraction or Triple Orgasm Machine, you may find yourself adding recurring solo date nights to the calendar.

Celebrating Valentine’s Day alone can be a great way to celebrate your sensuality and independence. You are worthy of love, luxury, and sex regardless of your relationship status. Celebrate all that you have and all that you are. Give yourself permission to be happy on this special day (and every other day!).