Love, Lust, & Lingerie

Mark Twain is credited for a certain fashion statement when he began wearing white suits late in his career in 1906. He wrote: “Clothes make the man.” Of course, the clothes we choose may be considered a reflection of our personality. But what about lingerie?

Lingerie began in the late 18^th century and has grown into a multi-billion dollar industry. What’s the fashion psychology behind lingerie? Some feel as is if it’s an extension of feminine expression. Wearing enticing, silky undergarments may empower people to put on a show to arouse their partner’s desire, whereas others feel it enhances internal self-esteem or your self-view as a sexual being. Some like to get out of their comfort zone and try something new to add novelty to the sexual experience. There may be some truth to adding a dose of novelty during sexual experiences, as it may also release the neurotransmitter oxytocin, aka the cuddle hormone.

The skin is the largest sexual organ. Many enjoy the feel and touch of delicate lace or silky fabrics on their bodies. In a recent scientific article, more than 350 women were surveyed and reported using intimate apparel to feel sexy, desired, or aroused. Results also showed that women used lingerie to prepare for sex with their partners.

While many women enjoy frills, lace, and silky undergarments, they are not the only ones who enjoy wearing lingerie. Many straight and heterosexual men enjoy wearing lingerie. Some of the reasons being soft fabrics like nylon, lace, and silk feel great against the skin. In my opinion, some men consider wearing certain lingerie styles “taboo” and find it fun to blur what they consider to be gender lines. Other men report wearing lingerie makes it enticing for both partners by sharing this little secret.

For some, the experience of buying lingerie may cause more anxiety than excitement. It’s important to remember that lingerie is all about how it makes you feel, regardless of how you identify or what “section” of the store it came from. If you like how it looks on you and it makes you feel amazing, that’s all that matters! People come in every shape, size, and color. Everyone’s body is unique, special, and sensual. Choose a piece that may accentuate your sexy assets and while easing any concerns about areas you don’t want to highlight. Be empowered, be confident, and be sensual in the way you choose to express your sexuality. Going to a boutique may be a daunting task, so online shopping offers the benefit of privacy coupled with diverse selections.

The mystery of lingerie is now debunked. It can be considered a form of sexual self-expression, an adjunct to your sensuality. Add some stimulating passion to your sexual journey and see what happens next!