How to Introduce Masturbators to Your Partner

Exploring new ways to enhance intimacy is an exciting part of any relationship, but discussing self-pleasure and sex toys—especially masturbators—can sometimes feel intimidating. Whether you're looking to spice things up, add a new element to solo or partnered play, or just want to normalize open conversations about pleasure, introducing a masturbator to your relationship can be a fun and rewarding experience.

 

At Pure Romance, we believe that sexual wellness and exploration are natural parts of a fulfilling relationship. If you’re ready to talk with your partner about masturbators but aren’t sure how to bring it up, here are some simple steps to make the conversation smooth and exciting for both of you.

 

1. Start with Open Communication

A healthy sex life thrives on open and honest communication. The first step in introducing a masturbator is starting the conversation in a comfortable and judgment-free space. You might begin with a question like:

 

“Have you ever thought about using toys together?”

“I read that masturbators can enhance pleasure—what do you think about trying one?”

 

The key is to approach the topic with curiosity rather than assumption. This allows both of you to discuss your desires, hesitations, or excitement in a way that feels natural.

 

2. Normalize Self-Pleasure

Self-pleasure is a healthy and normal part of sexuality, and masturbators are simply tools that enhance the experience. If your partner is unfamiliar with sex toys, remind them that masturbators aren’t meant to replace intimacy but rather to complement it.

 

You might share that using a masturbator can help build stamina, enhance solo play, and even create new opportunities for intimacy together. By framing it as an enhancement rather than a replacement, your partner may feel more open to the idea.

 

3. Explore the Options Together

Once you’ve introduced the topic, take the next step by browsing options together. Our Pure Romance Masturbators Collection offers a variety of textures, sensations, and styles to suit different preferences.

 

Some options to consider:

 

Handheld strokers: Easy to use and great for enhancing solo or partnered play. It’s time to give a hand to Self Service, our sleek and compact masturbator.

Vibrating masturbators: Add extra stimulation for an intensified experience. Take your solo sessions to the next level with our vibration-enhanced masturbator, Secret Service.

 

Realistic textures: Designed to mimic real sensations for a lifelike feel. Say hello to Trifecta, our multi-channeled masturbator that puts pleasure in your hands.

 

By shopping together, you can turn the experience into a fun and interactive part of your relationship.

 

4. Introduce It in a Playful Way

Once you’ve chosen a masturbator, introduce it into your intimate moments with a lighthearted and open-minded attitude. If your partner is hesitant, consider incorporating it slowly—maybe starting with a massage or teasing before bringing it into play.

 

You can also use it as part of mutual pleasure by exploring how it feels together. Encouraging each other’s pleasure is an intimate bonding experience that can strengthen your connection.

 

5. Keep the Conversation Going

Trying new things is always a journey! After using the masturbator, talk about what you both liked and if there’s anything you’d want to change. This ongoing communication helps create a space where you can explore new ways to connect.

 

Bringing a masturbator into your relationship is about embracing pleasure and intimacy in new ways. By approaching the conversation with openness, curiosity, and excitement, you and your partner can discover a whole new level of satisfaction—together.

 

Ready to explore? Check out our Pure Romance Masturbator Collection and find the perfect addition to your pleasure routine!