Rekindle Your Spark

Whenever you turn on the television or check out the latest on social media, there always seems to be a sex scandal lurking in the news. We’re always seeking sexual satisfaction but, in a long-term relationship, sexual excitement and enjoyment may decline with time.

Successful sexual relationships with ever-growing intimacy take a lot of work. Routine, unexciting sex can cause any relationship to fizzle. It could even cause couples to feel isolated and disconnected. It’s not uncommon to hear about a mid-life sexual crisis when sexual boredom infiltrates a marriage or relationship. Some people often consider a partner change or stray from the relationship.

The introduction of sexual novelty can not only heighten vibrancy in a relationship, it can also directly “pleasure” your brain. Pleasure hormones, such as dopamine and oxytocin, are released with sexual novelty. Exploration and novelty within a relationship can recharge sexual hormones and neurotransmitters which, in turn, improves the sexual response cycle.

Some simple suggestions to increase sexual satisfaction include using fantasy, playing with sexual props, role playing, and changing up sexual positions. There are a variety of products, such as enhancement creams, couples toys, and clitoral stimulators, that can heighten any experience.

Talking about potential boredom in the bedroom can also help. Just make sure to do so when the two of you are relaxed and not in the heat of the moment. Here are some helpful hints to keep the spark alive and well.

Practice Sexual Exploration

Explore each other with vibrators or other sexy accessories. Try erotica, sexually explicit books, and varying positions to add some flair to your sexual repertoire. Remember to take your time and enjoy the journey together!

Practice Mindfulness

Unlock your erotic potential by exploring your erogenous zones to see what you like best. According to Monica Geller from “Friends”, there are 7. Try to find them all! Stay focused and get curious as you first explore; it’s important to take time to see what makes you feel good and what doesn’t. Cherish the discoveries you make alone and with a partner.

Practice Sexual Feng Shui

Consider sprucing up the space where you normally have sex. Create a safe haven with some sensual touches like mood music, scented candles, and even tasty treats. Try to de-clutter and cut down on distractions by turning off the TV, phones, and other electronics. Add some color and drama by draping a tapestry over a wall full of photos. Try turning the temperate low and delight in the warmth of each other. The key to enjoying a sexy night is letting your imagination take over.

Practice Sexual Health

Sexual health matters. Sex has many health benefits including boosting immunity, increasing physical endurance, and promoting restful sleep. Vaginal dryness can make sex painful or uncomfortable. It has many causes including lack of estrogen, side effects from medications, or poor stimulation. Try over-the-counter vaginal moisturizers, lubricants, or even vaginal dilators to offset dryness or discomfort. It’s also worth figuring out if lack of stimulation is the problem, and if it is, talk to your partner about slowing down and devoting time to foreplay. Rushed sex can fail to satisfy both partners if the two of you aren’t on the same page. If a partner’s endurance is a problem, try prolonging enhancements and/or c-rings to help keep them in control and able to pleasure you longer.

A Final Word

Sexual satisfaction is related to overall happiness, increased pair bonding, and improved quality of life. Have sex for sex’s sake to enrich your relationship—that should be reason enough. Transforming your sex life is possible! Gratifying intimate experiences can make you happier both in and out of the bedroom.